Source: bostondahliaWe believe we have to be the heroes only because we can’t yet see other roles for ourselves.
“One of the most common complaints about feminism, all the way back to the First Wave, is that feminism seeks to make men obsolete or unnecessary. “If women can [fill in anything about female agency] what will they need men for?” runs the line, in every decade, in response to every advance. And while nobody is arguing that that’s a legitimate criticism, it’s important to understand that it arises out of a real fear. Look at the key word in that sentence, need. It’s always the same concept, however that objection is phrased. Plan A, for men in our society, is to be necessary, to be needed, to be indispensable. There is no plan B. If plan A doesn’t come off, we are lost, we’re adrift, we have nothing. This is an existential fear, on a very deep level.”
Can’t speak to the reality of this but from an objective perspective it seems a reasonable explanation for some of the actions of the men in my life.
Also, as usual, skip the comments- they’re full of feminism stereotypes used to disregard the message.